Your Desires Define You!

When we meet someone whom with we feel a connection, energetically (chemistry), we may feel that they are a soul mate. (We have many!) However if you are like me, and have experienced pain from one of these 'soul ties' then you may be wondering why you once felt sure that this person was in fact a soul mate since now all they do is cause you to suffer. Well, from my knowledge of past lives and sacred contracts as well as a video I watched recently with Teal Swan (link below) it has all become so clear to me! We choose the lessons we need - to evolve and ascend as a soul, prior to each lifetime. These 'sacred contracts' assist us in our spiritual evolution / expansion. They are very specific too! Such as the genetic family you have currently - you have traveled together in many lifetimes! You have choose these particular souls to travel with, like your very own 'soul tribe' even if sometimes, heck, most of the time even, they don't feel like soul tribe. In some of those lifetimes you may have been the father, the mother, the aunt, the uncle, the son, the daughter etc. But you continue to learn what it is that you need to learn from each other, this is the reason we are challenged in our genetic pool relationships.

In terms of romantic partners, the ones that dissatisfaction is the core of the relationship, you asked for them too, to come into your life to show you that which is within yourself, that you hate suppressed or have not acknowledged. So the very things you feel you hate about the person you had chosen to be your romantic partner, are the exact things within you, that you have denied and pushed down. They were just too painful to accept about yourself!

We need others to 'see' us in order for us to fully 'see' ourselves. We must acknowledge that every person is a mirror of ourselves to support our growth as a soul. Once we accept the aspects of ourselves that are not so pretty, we can work at reintegration. Acceptance and compassion are key. Soon we are able to see ourselves so clearly we can finally feel whole. The integration of our shadows will assist with the facade being ceased. We no longer have a 'split' in ourself. (Think split personalities...one day you're happy, one day you're depressed, sad, angry.) We can simply be with the negative aspects of ourself and accept them with love and compassion. Then with a gentle awareness we begin the work toward breaking the patterns that no longer serve us. Awareness is only the beginning and from there comes real change if the effort is there and there is a genuine desire to break the harmful patterns.

By seeing ourselves, we can be ourselves fully. When we know ourselves we can work on loving ourselves completely. Loving yourself even with your flaws allows another to do the same! This is when I believe the soul mate that you may have dreamed of will enter your life. 

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If you're still single and 'want to get to the soul mate relationship you desire, all you have to do is clear out that that is in the way of that relationship.' ~Teal Swan

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The suffering you will inevitably experience with certain romantic partners is exactly what you need to get you to the type of relationship you truly desire. You must recognize that ending a relationship is not so much about the other person but more about putting a halt to your patterns. (Patterns are lessons the Universal One is wanting you to learn! Or also described as your soul's contract.)

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You will want to work on recognizing all your needs and wants and accepting them as part of yourself. Follow them and be open to whatever lessons are meant for you as they will come! Experience them. This is your path. 

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May your expansion lead to unconditional love and harmony in your life.

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Sincerely yours,

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Gin xo

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Teal Swan video on this wonderful subject: https://youtu.be/7x1Z5ZXbQQw